Monday, January 22, 2018

You Too? Here’s What to Do - Ms. Magazine Blog

You Too? Here’s What to Do - Ms. Magazine Blog: "



#3: Use an interruption tactic to cut off the behavior quickly. Put your hands in a time-out T, or put your palm up in a stop sign. Look straight at the harasser and say, “Stop right there.”
#4: Force the man to explain. Take control by asking neutral fact-finding questions, like a journalist. “That’s so interesting. Why do you think it’s OK to ask me to give you a massage?” You’ve just flipped the dynamics.
#5: Organize consistent group action against a persistent harasser. Every time Joe starts talking sexist/racist trash, he should get the same no-nonsense response from any co-worker around: “I don’t want to hear it.” It’s a one-second technique, but it blocks harassers like a barricade.
#6: Document the incident on the spot. “You expect me to trade sex for a promotion? I need to video this on my phone.”
#7: Use a short, direct A-B-C statement or write an A-B-C letter to the harasser (when he does A, the effect is B, and you want C instead). Be specific about A and C. “When you call women ‘sweet ass,’ it’s a put-down. Use our names from now on.”
#8: Use basic self-defense. If you’re pinned against a wall, put your palm under the harasser’s chin and push up—forcing his head back will unbalance him and get him off you. There are ways to break free from most common grabs with minimum force. Take an aikido class if you can.
#9: If you’re a bystander, speak up on your own account; tell the abuser you will take action. Help document the behavior.
#10: Recruit unexpected allies. Nonviolent action changes the rules; it can turn apparent adversaries into allies. Don’t assume the bully’s buddies like what he’s doing. Challenge them to intervene. Men with ethics break the silence about sexual aggression. Passive complicity is over.
Consistent, everyday intervention has a cumulative effect. It redefines the workplace culture, de-normalizing harassment as an accepted practice. Shut down the serial harassers. And if your boss pulls a Harvey Weinstein, here’s your instant intervention: “Put the penis back in the pants right now.
Marty Langelan, an economist and martial artist, is the former president of the D.C. Rape Crisis Center and author of Back Off: How to Confront and Stop Sexual Harassment and Harassers. She designs effective anti-harassment action around the world.
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